Life, Love and Relationships

Ever dreamed of earning a living from something that you really love to do?   Ever imagined being a full-time housewife and feeding your kids with homemade pastries?   The second sentence may seem to be too much of a brady-bunch concept.  I warn you!!  Don’t laugh!! Because those 2 lines are my actual dreams. :)   

I love to dance!!  I really admire those jazz dancers like hotlegs as they artistically move on stage.  I really love to watch ballroom dancers gracefully competing on the dance floor.   Unfortunately, reality hit me.   Even if I like to dance for a living, it can’t give me what I am earning right now from my profession.   Most of the time my ideals can’t meet the reality that I need to face today and in the future.   Because along with those idealistic dreams are my realistic ones like having a home of my own, a good education for my kids-to-be and a good retirement package.   I don’t know how to term my mindset.  Should I call it being responsible or am I just a big worrier?

This confusing fact of life got me thinking for so many times.   Each time I would always look for the missing link to connect my ideals with my reality.   Unfortunately, I still can’t find it.   

BUT! One thing’s for sure, God wants me to share my talents and other special gifts to my community.  Through this I am enjoying what I love to do and at the same time leave my reality even just for a little while.

Oh well.. if you happen to know the link between yours, PLEASE! PLEASE share it with me!!! :)  You can post a comment for all of us to learn from.

‘Don’t worry there is someone for you..’  Sounds familiar?  This is the supposed comforting words often said to single ladies.   And I also had my own share of this line may I be at the receiving or the giving end.

Suddenly, I decided not to use this line ever and hoped that I won’t receive it either.  Why?  Because this just gives false hope to a person.  Please don’t call me a sinister bitch.  Hehe…  But it’s the reality.. Imagine! The last girl-to-boy ratio that I’ve read was 4:1.   So tell me how can each lady have that so-called ’someone’.  Even if you discount the fact of gays, how can you give me a mathematical solution to counter this reality.

Oh well… I think it would be better to accept the fact that there is a chance that someone can end up single for life.  On the other hand, we can’t also hide the fact of longing for someone to be with forever.   Haaayyy… Whatever our course is let’s just look up to heaven and pray for our happiness.

Just last week I’ve finished reading the book ‘5 people you meet in heaven’.  Among the people Eddie met, it was the blue man that struck me the most.  It got me thinking about the total strangers that i’ve run in to everyday.  I start to imagine how I touched, changed or even ruined their lives. 

It just illustrated how our lives are intertwined.  It is a definition of the word - ‘It’s such a small world’.   It is indeed a small world that’s why we need to be careful in eveything that we do.  Even the smallest thing that we do today has an effect on what our future will be.   That’s why we need to be brave and be strong enough to face the unforseen consequences of what we are doing.   Even if you can get away with something today you still have a lifetime to wait for it to start haunting you.  And believe me, it will!!! hehe

So who could be my first person in heaven???  Definitely, it is not you because the fact that you are reading my blog means you are dear to me.

Live each day well under the loving guidance of the Ultimate Being!  I am sure that there will be no ‘ghosts’ to haunt you.

Got a reaction on my first Blog from one of my college friends.  It’s nice to know that someone actually took the time to read my blog.   :)   Thanks Reineir!  He told me I was right BUT I need to get married NOW! hehe..  Oh well, it’s great to be single but then it would be a hypocrisy to say that one would enjoy it for the rest of her life.

Just today, I received a forwarded mail about the topic ‘Should I force him to marry me?’.  It discusses all about guys loving mystery and they are natural hunters loving the chase.  Crap!  Who says women are so complicated?  Men are equally the same!  A friend of mine defined it perfectly.  She said, it appears relationship is becoming a game of chess where we need to play it smart and strategize carefully.  Aaaahhh!! Why can’t women just be honest???  And just cling on to the so-called fact that if a guy loves you he will not leave you no matter what. 

In love and in marriage, you just need to have 3 things right, the right guy, the right time and the right faith.   I believe I have the first one right now and I am just waiting for the right time to share a lifetime of togetherness.  And I know it will come in God’s perfect time. 

Just finished watching the last 4 episodes of Sex and the City’s last season.  So here I am, inspired by Carrie Bradshaw, writing my first Blog. 

I remember my mom used to tell me to get married at 25.  During my younger years I used to think that 25 is ancient and I should get married by then.  Looking back, I’ve got no regrets from not marrying at that age.   Actually, if a single lady in her early 20’s would ask for my opinion, I would not hesitate in saying that a lady must experience independence and at the same time having enough money at her own disposal.   Enjoy life!  Travel!  Have fun!  At least, when you decide to marry, you can look back at your younger years with a smile.